Marriage – Long Term

One of the things I’m passionate about is marriage.  I’ve got a great marriage – now.  It hasn’t always been that way; just ask my wife.  But I’ve seen what God can do when you seek to honor Him and are willing to let Him make necessary changes in you or your spouse.  It’s work, but it’s holy work and beyond a doubt, it’s worth it.  With that said, let me share a story I heard recently…


A young couple marries and has kids.  We’ll call them Mark and Marie.  The husband has Cystic Fibrosis, but Marie doesn’t care.  She marries him anyway – knowing that life expectancy has increased for people with Cystic Fibrosis, but also recognizing that life beyond 40 is NOT the norm.  After a few years of marriage and kids, Mark may become one of the “lucky” ones as he receives a double lung transplant.  Through the surgery and long recovery, Marie is there.  She does things for him, takes care of him and constantly tells him she loves him.  Even when complications arise, she doesn’t lose hope.  She encourages him, holds his hand and prays for him.  And when the battles continue and Mark is in and out of the hospital with various infections and complications, Marie is there by his side.  Including on the last day of his life.  As always, Marie is there and is holding his hand.  And Mark lies in the hospital bed, resigned to the fact he’s not going to see his kids grow up or spend his ‘golden years’ with Marie.  Mark looks at her, he squeezes her hand, he thanks her and then tells her how he remembers when they said “for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do us part” and how blessed he’s been that they both meant it and kept their vows.  Mark died that day.

Marie honored her vows and kept her commitment.  Was it always pleasant or easy?  No.  Was it worth it?  Without a doubt.  Let’s stop accepting lame excuses and impotent attempts at working on things and start honoring God and doing the holy work of building up our spouses and our marriages.  It might be rough, might be messy, might be painful – it might not even turn out like you’d expect, but marriage needs to be ‘honored by all’ and we need to take to heart, Jesus’ words when He reminded the Pharisees, “what God has joined together, let no man separate.

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